When you have just ended a long-term relationship, everything seems so different, even if you know that this is the right thing to do. You are just so used to being with this person that everything seems wrong when you are not with them. Every little thing reminds you of them, you accidentally hear “your song” and you are about to start crying, you cannot stop remembering situations and places where you both have been to. You have to forget about calling them if you had a bad day. In other words, everything is a torture. One thing that is a bit of relief is to know there are other people who have been through the same thing and they can help you cope with the situation. And later in your life when you look back you will know that you did the best thing you could and you held your head up high. Here are some things you can do to recover from the pain recommended by people who have been through it.
Let yourself mourn the pain
After the breakup, you should move on, but this does not mean that you should not let yourself be miserable for some time. If you want to cry, then you should cry. Spend one night watching romantic movies or listening to sad love songs, and definitely do not forget the booze, and who knows in the end you may feel better. Give yourself some time to just be sad. At one point, however, you should move on. You will have other things to do, to continue your studying, or continue doing your job, after all, people do not pay you money for being sad. And in the end you just have to move on, you cannot live constantly with your memories and lose time in the past.
Think about whether you can still be friends
After a break-up one of the thoughts that come to one’s mind is that you can still can get back together. Of course, most of the times you are just fooling yourself, you have probably heard that you cannot repair anything that is broken. You should not go back to something that has ended. But you could do another thing instead. Why you and your ex do not try to be friends? That is, of course, if your relationship did not end dramatically. But think about it, you have so much in common, probably a lot of friends, a lot of memories, you share secrets with each other. A lot of people who have ended a long-term relationship prefer to continue their relationship but no longer a romantic one, but just a pure friendship.
Embrace your freedom
Think about all the things that you wanted to do, but you couldn’t because of your partner. Go out with your friends on that girls’ night you so much longed for. No men – no obligations and no problems. Party all night long without having to call someone that you are going to be late, or having to come back early because your boyfriend could get jealous because he will think that somebody is wooing his girlfriend. You will finally have more time for your family, and you can visit them more often than you used to. You will have time for yourself. You can finally relax with a good book. You can watch whatever you want on TV. And you even do not have to pretend that you have a headache if you do not want to have sex. Being single has so many positives, so why would you want to think about all the negatives? Enjoy your freedom.
Stop following your ex on social media
Women have this habit to constantly check their ex’s social media profiles to be sure whether they have a new girl in their life or if they also have difficulties moving on. Remember that you should stop doing this. The more you think about him, the more time you spend viewing his photos and checking what he has written in his social media profile, the harder it would be for you to forget about him. If you do not want to “un-friend” them, you can just “un-follow” them in social media, and you will see how quickly you will stop thinking about them.
Fight fire with fire
If you ask both men and women what is the best way to forget about your ex, they will tell you the old saying to fight fire with fire. In other words, find yourself another man. Of course, it does not mean that your new relationship would be as deep as your previous one, but you at least would feel new sparks and the long-forgotten butterflies in your stomach. This new person would act differently, and would be different, and with time you will not even know when you stopped thinking about your ex and you will realize that someone else has taken a special place in your heart.